How come you don’t have a boyfriend? they ask…

I don’t how I can make myself more clear. Besides the fact that settling for less isn’t an option here and I’m not saying that I’m too good or anything type of bullshit like that. But to be honest, I don’t want just any boyfriend, I don’t want just the first guy who throws himself at me. Most of the “girls/women” I know settle for so little and I can not ever imagine myself in such position, only because I want better for me and my future. First off, I’m in no rush. I am too young still. I am preparing my future, I am trying to become someone in life before I can have a life and all that has me busy. I’m sure along the way I’ll find someone but not just anyone, but the one.

The one guy who has the same ambition as mine, who inspires me to go further and reach higher. Not someone who will hold me back and keep me from reaching my dreams. Someone who’s willing to reach my dreams along with me, and at the same time let me chase his dreams with him. His ambitions will become mine, my ambitions will become his. My dreams will become his dreams, his dreams will become my dreams. He’ll be my inspiration and I’ll be his inspiration. Both we will aspire to inspire. We will set a life for our future family to live worry free. Waiting for the one man who will keep me safe but will be willing to take chances with me. Who will push me to take that leap of faith and jump along with me. Someone who knows how to give me my own space just like he will need his. Someone who will comprehend my ways, the way I will comprehend his.

I guess I’m asking for too  much but I can not afford to settle for less and be with someone who will stop me from becoming better and believe me I seen it happen. I do not want that. Best thing about me is I know what I want and I stick to it so I know in the end I will find that someone, the one who will be my missing puzzle piece. Meanwhile I will focus on me, my future and my success. Which most of you should do too instead of desperately asking for someone and settling for the first one who knocks on your door.

Just a thought…

Be a better you. There’s no way around it. Waking up every day should be a challenge to better yourself. To be able to accept your flaws, mistakes and be able to overcome your insecurities. You’re your only obstacle in life. The only reason we start to say “I CAN’T” is because you let others influence in your life deep enough to let you believe you can’t. You need to look in the mirror every day and be able to say “Today, I will be a better you.” You should be able to look in the mirror and see someone different every day, a better you.

In order, to become a better person each day, you must first accept yourself as you are. You have to LOVE, RESPECT, APPRECIATE, TRUST, FORGIVE yourself. But above all you have to BELIEVE in yourself.

There’s no worst enemy other than yourself, you have to defeat yourself’s insecurities. You have to let your mind think positive, never put yourself down. Remember nobody’s perfect. We all make mistakes and sin, but that shouldn’t stop you from bettering yourself and reach the happiness you wish for. That should be used as a lesson learned. It should let you analyze things, think about it and fix what you did or went wrong for a better result. 

Take this as an advice, think about and I bet the better you will be a happier you.

- Ju. xoxo